Bosses and Leaders

"Age doesn't guarantees maturity, hardship does."

The designations classifies officials, just like different religions. As possibly, some religion could have a combination of freedom fighters & terrorist; similarly some designations could have the combination of bosses & leaders.

A boss is a person who doesn't just drapes around his or her neck an employee card, but he or she also drapes around a thread of ego, over confidence & negative vibes. On the other hand, a leader drapes around his or her neck a chain of understanding, humbleness & great character along with her or his employee card.

I wonder how some people doesn't makes sense at all most of the times and combining with zero personality & still you find them happily wrapping a torn blanket of so called designation. The least these people could foresight is their appraisal. A 'VP' for example as designation may stand for Very (great) Personality or Very (poor) Personality.

Some body who is a leader, attracts its peers just like some magnet. He or she believes in effort rather than wasting most of the time on imparting feedbacks.

Not just in office, while you are with friends or family members; try being a leader and lead people associated with you to growth. Keep yourself from some people who pretends to be a leader. Life is too short to harm others and save criticisms within for others.

Remember, a good character is far better than a worst career.

On death bed, nobody will talk about your appraisals or promotions. Don't boss around rather lead around.

I wish everyone a happy life,
Chetan Dalvi

Obsessions in Life

We all go through situations which are most difficult to face. Events which make us upset, angry, exhausted, we feel like nothing is happening positive to us. 

No matter how happy or sad you are in life, you always get everyday some free time when you think/plan/write/booze/talk/take actions/etc. May be free time during travelling, a time when you wait on bed for sleep, or a time when you have no work, or a time when you are home alone, or a time when you are waiting for someone or could be time when you are sitting on a pot. This is actually a time for thought, the thoughts during these events motivates your mind, build your character, develop or collapse your confidence.

I usually write when I get such times, as I am doing now during travelling in train (26.11.15 08.10 p.m. IST). As I see around I see some passengers sleeping, some fighting with co- passengers, some reading, some playing games on mobile, some looking out of the window and appears to be in deep thought and some doing nothing but waiting for their turn to get seated. Ironically most of us have such free times still we give excuse of not having any time to concentrate on our dreams.

Please remember if you are obsessed about something then mold situations as per your choice and do not let situations mold you and drive your life. More you concentrate on your dreams, more you develop an obsession within. Don't keep yourself from achieving your goals, don't wait for the right time. The right time is always now.

We have to raise ourselves from the obsessions of anger, guilt, revenge & fear. These habits will always keep you from growing higher in life. Indeed embrace an obsession of your dreams; no matter where you are, think about your dreams and progress.

Those who wait are always found standing in queue. Rise up & act !!

I wish you a happy life,

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Why some people degrade others?

It happens with almost all of us that someone trying to degrade us without any fault. The idea is never to improve you, as degrade and feedback are two ends of same stick. The later could be positive, but the former is always intended to disarm somebody's positivity.

When you feel degraded you give away your power of patience, joy, strength & confidence. The person who  degrade others, always lacks an ability to perform some action by himself. Therefore they prefer attacking the performers capability with degradable comments.

I would have gave up writing completely, if I would have had minded the degradable comments of some people. The feeling of feeling degraded is an emotional obstacle which would keep you from going higher.

You cannot change somebody trying to degrade you, but you could surely keep yourself feeling offended by the comments. You rather could regrade yourself by believing in your inner power, concentrating on your strengths, developing a habit of happiness.

Neither degrade others, neither get offended with somebody trying to degrade you. Having said that, pray for somebody having a habit of degrading others, ask God to improve them, as they are digging the grave for themselves and even for those who set them as examples.

You may regrade your friends or loved ones by sharing this message if you liked.

I wish you a happy life,

I wish sometimes...

In some private galaxy where only I and only I should be, then I imagine how wonderful it would be.

No office politics surrounding, neither any borrowing keeps compounding.

No credit card bills, neither any anger spills or guilts,

There would be no attire competition, neither there would be any satire surrounding.

No God, no religion, no cities or any selfish citizens. Politics might be an alien, no bargain in rupee, neither there could exist some houses worth billions.

I could eat what I like, there would be no historical boundaries, neither any future to foresight. No rich, no poor; everyday was like some world tour.

I would be happy if I live alone there, perhaps I could escape all the troubles here.

But God would do as He feel right, but I can wish or may I say might.

I could be hero, I could be PM, I may be Governor or I might be just zero. I may the only IAS, I the only star, I may be only struggler and filling streets with the tar.

I would not blame, I may not pride, neither any Godman nor any guide.

I may not get what I wish but still I keep thinking and thinking that how wonderful it could be when in some private galaxy where there would be me & only me.
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Critical people in life

Does someone is jealous or insecure with you? So read this till the bottom.

As humans, we tend to make mistakes, mishandle things, spill emotions or it happens that sometimes we fail to give our best shot. It is a proven fact that everybody learns from their failures.

Despite you giving your best tries all the time, you would always find some people criticising you or trying to spoil your name or put up/ pass direct or indirect critical comments about you or brag about their own bubble world or even sometimes trying to instigate you for an argument.

Each one of us at certain levels have critics in our lives. May be some friends, relatives or some professionals and you never find a single person alive without having critics. As a matter of fact, even God has critics.

Criticism is healthy as long as you take it from the right people. The people who care about you, would criticize to help you improve and it is advised to give every possible attention to these peoples feedback. As it would help you to refine yourself and go higher in your lives.

At the other end of the scale, you would find people criticising or backbiting about you, out of insecurity or jealousy.  The number of critics perhaps increase as you grow higher in your life.

Some people would be okay as long as your wings are drawn closer to your body; however, when you start taking efforts to spread your wings and to leap higher, it would be then, some people shall start getting jealous or insecure with you.

Therefore, friends you have to choose your critics wisely. Ignore the comments of critical peoples who are getting insecure or jealous with your growth. Keep yourself from people who brags about their bubble world.

Just keep moving towards your goals, strive hard to realise your dreams, choose your critics wisely and take care of yourself & your loved ones.

I wish you a happy life,

Effect of motivational messages

I saw a guy this morning selling the mirrors. How amazing it is to learn that we buy mirrors to see just to ourselves. Mirror reflects our physical bodies and helps up to fix our appearances. The motivational messages does the same thing for our souls.

We all know what is right, what is not; what we should do, what we not; what we want, what we not. The answers are within us. It often happens with all of us, that individually we like some message better than the others and the reason behind is, that we feel more connected with that message. It coincidentally describes our struggle, our situation, our view point better.

You fall in love with things you feel connected to. The same condition applies with the motivational messages. We feel a slight push after reading or hearing such messages.

Apparently all motivational speakers shares nothing new which nobody knows. The only difference is those who act upon what they know they should do, tends to be more successful than the other group of people, who do not follow.

When we read or listen to some message we get reminded about our goals and we draw inspiration to achieve our dreams, we get confidence from other successful stories and starts to act.

In part of epic Ramayana, Lord Hanuman forgotten about his powers, due to childhood curse and when he was reminded about it, He leaped into the skies and crossed the ocean, sets the golden Lanka on fire, killed demons. Similarly, we all have great powers within, and motivational messages helps us to realise it and achieve our dreams.

I wish to remind you that you all are unique, talented, beautiful and could do anything you wish to.

I wish you a happy life,

Growing higher in life

Everybody starts their day with positive mindset, expecting the best to happen during the day. However, most of the times, as the day unfolds we realise that our expectations didn't match with circumstances. By end of the day, we become totally uptight and return to our homes tiredly.

If someone tells me that he has 5 years of work experience, I wonder if he had really grown in those 5 years or just slogged.

The growth even takes place in the physical structure of animals with each passing days. However at the end of the day they are still animals. But we humans are totally different.

As we grow up, in addition to change in our physical body, our foresightedness enhances, our endurance level enhances, we act more responsible.

If some same thing or person makes you upset from past few years then you need to analyze your growth. As we grow up we learn to handle situations better. We don't get upset over little things easily.

We don't just grow up for ourselves but our growth sets an example for our children's. It is most common that our children keeps us as an example and starts their life journeys. So whatever you do today would not only impact your life but even to your immediate family.

You couldn't measure your growth just with bank balance, rather measure it with your level of patience. Check if some old wrong event or people who betrayed you, still bothers you. Check if you still gets tensed for unimportant things. Check if small losses still makes you restless. You can even check the quality of your prayers and what you seek from God.

Grow higher, grow happier, grow funnier, grow smarter, grow better, grow and just grow ... just as business without profits is of no use; so as the life without growth.

I wish you a happy life,

God: Generator, Operator & Destroyer

Have you ever wondered how a different pieces of vast cake would taste?

Same, isn't it?  So is the God I believe.

He/She is religionless, undefinable, indestructible, formless and omnipresent.

If I write God, so everybody reading it has some picture of Him/ Her within. Some even may picturize their parents or some may picturize their Guru they believe into.

Its my most difficult attempt to write about God as He/She is everything and in everything.

God is present as I am writing this, God is present with everybody whoever will read this. May be after few decades when I am dead and if somebody is reading this blog, God would be still there.

We do not realise in the middle of our busy schedule but isn't it amazing how beautiful is the earth and its existence, how wonderfully the law of karma works with everybody, how amazing is the existence of body & soul, how the living beings have different Gods yet the same planet.

Like those electricity wires running through the poles and assembles at transformers. So are we all, we are different by religion, gender & beliefs but we all are connected with each other.

Movement is the concept. Earth moves, river flows, Sun rise & set, living beings struggles for living.

Everything is moving and it is beautifully engineered by God. Our round shaped planet symbolize a wheel; every second on movement.

Work with complete passion and keep moving towards your goal. God has structured your life in such a way that even a simple act of saving an ant from your steps would be counted.

So do well, act well & live happily.

I thank Almighty for making this beautiful world. I pray for happiness and peace for each one of you.

I wish you a happy life,

Seeing the unseen

Most of us has a habit of dwelling upon the facts and minute details of almost everything in life. We make conclusions, pass on judgments, believe more in practicalities and keep ourselves from trying new things in life.

It is good to have knowledge, it is good to know the reasons; however, sometimes you should prepare your mind to believe in impossibilities. You may not be wrong in judging the facts, but there is something beyond facts and that we call, a Miracle.

When you believe into something that is unbelievable, when you visualize something which everybody believes impossible, then you let the new ideas hover upon you.

All the scientific discoveries are the results of somebody seeing what others couldn't. You can see yourself rising higher in life or you can see yourself living the life of your dreams or you can see yourself totally debt free or having a perfect relationship.

When you started seeing the unseen, you then tap into the super natural energy around you.

Never let your circumstance describe you; never let the people around choose your destiny; rather believe in yourself, see the unseen, work with full zest and change your circumstances.

Just like we could not see the wind, yet we can feel it. The same way the energies around you are not visible but everybody is born with the power to draw strength from it, with their beliefs.

Your current circumstances, family background, financial situation, may keep you from believing into impossibilities.
You can either choose to be where you are or could choose to gather courage and believe that you could still achieve your dreams.

I wish you a happy life.

Love,
Author Chetan Dalvi

Success is pricey

All of us knowingly or unknowingly have achieved success upon many things in life. Whether it could be success in learning to drive, or success in establishing an enterprise, or could be success in marrying to the person one love.

Success is not an easy task, success doesn't comes from wishful thinking. You can think about success and build confidence within but you have to release your confidence, put actions to your thoughts to achieve success.

As a child I used to dream about sitting in an airplane very much. If I could see an airplane in the sky, I used to stare it continuously, until it is lost in the clouds. I luckily achieved success in this area some years later but even for this little dream, as it may appear, I have worked very hard.

Success is the result of your dreams. When you dream, you desire to endure some toughest exam and how you perform in the exam, shall determine your success. You may pass or fail but you surely learn to prepare for some next exam. So result could be uncertain, but definitely not the learning.

The form of success depends upon person to person, as we all know that, for some blind person, success could be watching the world from his own eyes. So never belittle your dreams, neither take somebody's else dreams for granted.

Do not appear in exam of efforts just for sake of trying... appear to be successful.

YOU HAVE EVERYTHING, WHAT IT TAKES TO BE SUCCESSFUL... JUST BE DETERMINED !!

I wish you a happy life,
Love

Ten important takeaways (for life) from candy crush game:

1. No matter how busy you are, you can always find time, to do the things you love (just as you find time to play candy crush)
2. It is good to keep a watch on your progress (just as you watch your progress in game)
3. No matter if some people doesn't like you, there shall be always some group of people who loves to have you with them (just like similar candies enjoy each others company).
4. It's not important how many times you lost; it matters how many times you tried (just as you try completing some stage multiple times restlessly).
5. There shall be always people who are not so fortunate like you, who desires to be at your place, who would love to have your life, your job or your friends; so value what you have and keep progressing (just as someone who is behind you in game).
6. If you are trying and losing then you are far ahead with peoples, who are not trying at all (just as you being at first stage and somebody not installed the game yet).
7. In the middle of trying and losing, it is better to take some break and regather energy within before a fresh start (just as timeout breaks in game if you lose in continuation).
8. When you are with family, keep everything aside and give them a quality time (for those who play candy crush in bedroom's).
9. Everyone starts from the scratch so do not get jealous with people ahead of you, do not dwell upon impossibilities, do not sob upon losses (just like someone who is at 100th stage has started with 1st stage someday).
10. Life is one of its kind and like some never ending book, just keep reading, learning, moving, growing & inspiring. (just as you never hear anyone saying they finished the complete game).

Share if you liked reading me,
Love

Some tips to handle work (pressure) in office:

Office arrest is the right word, just like some house arrest. As most of our times are spent in office.

You wake up in the morning, travel to office, work all day, come back home.
Sounds simple, isn't it?

The irony however is different - you wake up in the morning (don't feel like leaving the bed, but you do !), you travel to office (the to-do list of the day keeps running back of your mind), you work all day (in an environment where work is always lesser than the plannings), come back home (to prepare yourself for the next day).

Some of the following remedies, you can observe, in order to keep yourself from work pressure in office:

1. Love your work, not your boss. (you can love your company, who is paying you)
2. No one is expert in everything. (Even your head of department)
3. Its OK to ask questions.
4. Its nothing wrong, if you can't speak in English properly as long as you are able to express yourself in Hindi or any other regional language which everyone could understand. (perhaps only in India)
5. If somebody is senior to you, that doesn't mean he would be always right. (Seniority doesn't guarantee relevant experience)
6. Choose your self respect &  ethics, over your job.
7. Do not waste time thinking about amount of work to be done, rather start doing it.
8. You are not a robot to deliver everything on a same day. You can always leave on time and continue next day.
9. Take out sometime for your family, friends & hobby even during weekdays.
10. Everything happens for some good reason, even the worst of the worst things in life. (Death could be an exception)
11. You can keep yourself arguing with the idiots.
12. Leave every feeling of disappointment in office and come back home with fresh mind, just as you left for office in morning.
13. You should try taking sick leave, even when you are sick of everything and need sometime for yourself.
14. Last but not the least, do not forget that the God you believe in, is above everything.

I wish you a happy life,

Feed(back) and Feed(forward)

I was talking to a friend who happens to be a part of senior management of multinational bank. He talked  to me about benefits of feedback. He shared about his great successes with this process.

I wonder if feed-back could bring so much success, then what miracle could feed-forward would do.

Telling someone that he should work hard in positive way could bring better results than telling him the same thing with annoyance.

"You could do better" or you can say  "You did not met expectations". The same meaning but the first sentence is easily adaptable. Whether its feedback from employer, or parents or teacher or close friend.  We consume words which are filled with optimism.

Everyone carries the bundle of self-respect, attitude, belief & understanding. You can win hearts by expressing sentences with optimism or you can break hearts by saying the same sentence with pessimism.

Mostly people give feed(back) as way of expressing authority, experience and greatness. However the true leader passes feed(forward) as they know the receiver is very much human like them.

As candle lights another candle; you can either collapse somebody's confidence with your pessimistic feedback or you can raise somebody's confidence with optimistic feed(forward) having same meaning.

So next time remember this message when expressing your opinion with colleagues or friends or kids and even to yourself.

I wish you a happy life,

Nevertheless... I'm Positive

Accustomed is the right word. Our life is mostly influenced by things we got accustomed too. 'Live with it' is the commonly used tag line.

Most of us dislike our bosses, but we live with it; Most of us dislike our work, but we live with it; Most of us dislike some habit of our partner, but we live with it... We live with that pain, shortcoming, behaviour etc.

We all had uniquely tuned ourselves to live with some disturbing situation. Your life could be much easier, if you apply the word Nevertheless while describing the difficult situations of life.

"I've a difficult boss, nevertheless I am positive." or "I'm going through financial crisis, nevertheless I am positive." or "My business is low or I lost my job or that close friend betrayed me, nevertheless I'm positive."

Friends, happiness is not stagnant, it never stops at one point in life. Rather happiness is collection of moments and always keep moving like some river.

You may be accustomed to some disturbing situations or person but nevertheless you can be still positive.

Remember how as a child, we used to collect and store marbles in crystal jar. If you train yourself using the sentence, ...nevertheless I'm positive, after every situation or person you dislike, then it would act like that situation of collecting marbles and one day you will wake up to observe ... (Whatever shit in life) ... Nevertheless you are happy !!

I wish you a happy life

The process of problem solving

It is when you drive through some steep roads, the engines of your vehicles are more pressurised.  An effort is required more, when you drive through the steep roads, or when you are lifting heavier weights to work out, or if you are pushing the cart through the potholes.

Similarly when you are in the middle of any problem, you are expected to double your efforts. By doubling your efforts, you may be, not able  to solve the problems successfully, but you will surely learn through them successfully.

One big problem with many of us is that, during the problematic situations, we become effort(less)and fall upon sorrow,  instead of being more effort(full) and fall upon new sunshine tomorrow.

A prayer without efforts, during problems, are just as  some bricks, they are useful but you have to put efforts to shape them into some good house.

When you have problems;  stretch your limitations, do not lean upon negativities, gather up your strength and double your efforts.

Cure your problems with effort and not with comfort.

I wish you a happy life,

Life Backstage

Each one of us are like some ocean, different at the surface and different at the depth. The contents in
depth are important than what is observant at the surface. The life in the depth or backstage, where artist prepares for the performance, are the real us.

That successful movie plays on screen, is the result of combined efforts of various people backstage. Someone may appears to you, as happy as lark, but possibly at backstage he is not so happy. Each one of us have our own unique struggles to bear, life hits harder to everyone  backstage.

If you learn to keep yourself calm at the backstage so most likely you are going to give your best performance. If the depth is fine, so would be the surface.

No one ever prays for the struggle or hard times in life, but still we get it. Might be your prayer some time remain unanswered but the struggles would come to you without wishing. We get in life what we deserve. The backstage struggles are in order to make you more deserving.

If some athlete is winning the race, then we all know that it is the result of hard struggles by him or her backstage.

Some preparations you pro-actively do for better performance on stage, some struggles you unexpectedly get backstage as your God foresees better than you, in terms of what experience you may require.

The hardships at backstage are to prepare us for the unexpected battles ahead and never meant to punish.

As the curtains are pulled and you are supposed to give your shot, your confidence would be per say your struggles at backstage. More the struggles, better the performance. Just like during academics the students gets ranking, basis their performance and to be precise basis their preparations backstage.

The struggles are like some water, you may pollute it with your resistance, bad thoughts or negativity or you may purify it and put it to your use with positive mindset and attitude.

Next time if you see someone angry at public place or doing unnecessary argument with you or overreacting, then that simply means that his or her life at backstage is under revision.

I wish you a happy life,
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Believe in Miracles

Hey everybody, hope life is treating you well or to be precise, hope you are taking treatment of life positively. I wanted to share today about miracles of life.

It happens and surely would
have happened with all of us at least once when our luck favoured us uniquely.

Something that we believed difficult to achieve had had manifested magically. As I say this I am sure most of you would recall that incident that magically turned into your favor. That moment we commonly term as good luck.

We could not see several radiations around us with our bare eyes, but we all know that it exist. As common as mobile signals, DTH signals, radio frequencies etc.

The frequency of magic too hover around somewhere in the air and randomly favor the believers around. It is most common research that those who are confident, disciplined and hardworking are likely to live life of their dreams.

Few things in life appear gloomy, impossible to turn off, difficult to face; during that moment a simple hope of seeking the magic could do miracles. You have to believe that situation is temporary, nothing is bigger than your God, your will power can fall any mountain of problems.

Few years earlier if anyone would ask me about my future plans, I used to go numb.  Even when I was in college, I wanted to drop out. No plans at all. I was like some sheep wandering aimlessly. Today, with grace of God, I wear more than one hat. This doesn't happen overnight, the magic took its own time to manifest and perhaps the magic worked better when I believed it.

Friends, do not lose hope when situations are not well. Do not feel inferior under the influence of jealously. The magic in the air is like some season and it falls upon everybody equally. Those who believe are more likely to receive the good luck than the unbelievers.

Rise up, gather your courage, stir up that dead dream within and believe.

I wish you a happy life,
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The right intention

I was watching over to a big garden. It is so peaceful some time to just watch the serenity and feel the presence of God everywhere. My thoughts wander upon the beautiful flowers of different kinds that emerged from the common soil. We all are like those flowers; unique, beautiful, serene and having a common creator.

The soil doesn't restrict us on the type of seed we sow; therefore whatever we sow, so shall we reap. Whatever you intent, will come back to you.

While walking across the barren land, you cannot judge what is sown inside it, until some plant is emerged from it. The kind of intentions within anyone are better known only to two - One is God and the other to that person himself.

You cannot know anyone's intention until the plant of reaction is emerged. Many times it happen to us that we trust somebody, but later we found that he didn't had the right intention as we believed. You have no control on other's intention, but you have full control upon your own intention.

God knows your intention, you are divinely guided if you hold onto right intention irrespective of what people think about you. You may be misunderstood initially but when the seed is emerged, as a result of your intention, everybody would see.

The right intention may not give fruits initially, but in longterm those who have good intention would be comparatively at better place. Your God knows your intention, you cannot hide anything from Him.

You may be not liking some people but you can still keep yourself thinking bad about them. You can either think good about people around you or you can think nothing about them, instead of dwelling upon bad.

Be right and the right things would happen to you. Your intention are like some bullets; you can either harm somebody with them or protect somebody.

Let people do what they want, think what they want and you can still live keeping the right intention.

I wish everybody a great life.
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The (practical) meaning of happiness

Most of my manhours daily are spent on train travelling daily, I go to office and return and spend close to three hours daily on train travelling. Sounds tiring but I enjoy it as I during this period I get time to write, read, listen music & mostly get an opportunity to observe different people.  These local trains are blood vessels of Mumbai, it traverse citizens across the different ends of it.

One thing is common among all passengers which I observe daily. The person standing on the edge of the doors and struggling to get inside, wishes for a comfortable standing ground.  The person standing inside, wishes to get seated. The person sitting, wishes to sit on seat closest to window, the person sitting closest to window, wishes that he could travel by his personal vehicle more comfortably.

There could be different wishes but I am just anticipating a few and idea is to express that each one of us are always wishing to occupy the position of someone ahead of us or rather more comfortable than us.

It is good to dream ahead, make plans for success or wishing to excel. However we attach our happiness to our dreams.

If I buy this house, then I would be happy or if I get married then I would be happy or if I pay my loans off then I would be happy. Friend's, you would always be dreaming or wishing about happiness if you attach reasons to it.  The desires are never ending. You can't plan to be happy.

The true happiness is right now. When you are reading this message or may be when you are travelling or when you are in office, home  or when you are in the middle of some important work. Its right now, wherever you.

If you have hundred reasons to not feel happy, think about that one reason to be happy. If you reverse your life, then you will realise that you are already living with hundreds of your dreams. You have achieved many things which could be reason today to cherish.

The laws of universe are designed in such a way that it is practically impossible that someone has no single reason to be happy.

Write down your reason of happiness and I am sure this list would overpass your list of not being happy.

Be happy, as it is primary source of every successful relationship's, enterprises and accomplishments.

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Pain(full) of lessons

When the sugarcane stick is pushed through the machine, it cracks and divides the juice and the pulp. We all are similar to those sugarcane sticks and we are pushed through the hard times to divide us from bad thoughts (pulp) and to develop our personality (juice).

Not even a millisecond of hard time is deprived of some form of lesson. Each one of us are pushed through the hard time in a unique way. Everybody has their own challenges and a different racetrack to run upon. Most of us get up early in the morning and struggle all day at work and even struggle after returning home. May be who are professionals or those who run their own businesses, does not have to wake up early morning, but they have their own pie of challenges.

Nobody is deprived of slogging. Somebody might be slogging for money, somebody for peace, somebody for love and somebody for somebody else.

Ironically this is life, hard times are part of it. You can stay happy in the midst of any hard time. If you are pushed through some struggle its upon you whether to dwell upon the juice or upon the pulp.

You would find few people always nagging about what went wrong in life, always complaining about their circumstances or job. These are the kind of people who dwell upon the pulp and keep themselves from the lessons of hard times. You might get a lesson but you need an attention to grasp it. Whatever you dwell upon would pulled towards you.

Some of you might be going through rough phase of life but remember that you always be inconvenienced before a breakthrough.

The problems would grow with your endurance level. A problem that appeared big few years earlier might look smaller today. Its not problem which reduced its size; rather your endurance level has enhanced.

Stand by against any circumstance, hold your ground, do not fear, have faith. Tough time is like season it has come to pass. Dwell upon the juice and not upon the pulp.

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Gossiping is injurious to dreams

We all are segregated with star signs, however one thing is common among almost all of us, is that we are concerned more about lives of others. 

We all are imperfect beings but still most of us are engaged in finding faults in others, gossiping about others, and even backbiting sometime.

 
It is not wrong to engage in gossips but you have to realize that people gossiping with you, would probably be gossiping about you. The idea is to engage oneself with more productive activities instead of wasting energy on unwanted talks. 

You cannot stop anyone talking against you, but surely you can stop yourself talking about anyone and instead getting engaged with doing something productive. 

The people with small mindsets have smaller views so don't bother. Having said that, you don't know why someone is behaving weird or gossiping, everyone has its own set of experiences, therefore you should not misinterpret if anyone is not responding the way you expect.

Be right on your part, let your God decide among right or wrong.

Stay happy on your portion of racing track and keep running. Keep dwelling upon your own race

Warm Regards,

Chetan

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Happy Teachers Day

[In dedication to my mother]

God is supreme knowledgeable;
parents, educators, friends, siblings are the teachers.

Life is like some play ground;
Pains, bad times, heartbreak, insolvency, sickness are the coaches.

Teachers day are celebrated on different dates across the world. It is observed on 5th September, since 1962, in India to celebrate the birthday of Dr. Sarvepalli Radhakrishnan.

Even our teachers had teachers. God I believe is the supreme teacher and he has prepared our life syllabus well before we were born.

The syllabus prepared by God, is so dynamically designed that everyone has different ways of learning, different teachers & even different Gods.

Teachers developed by God are parents, good & bad times, friends & foes, health & wealth, pain & gain.

The day we formed in our mothers womb, till the day we depart from earth, every second of our life is coached by God.

Practical teaching of life through pain & losses are far more understandable, explainable, knowledgeable than theoretical teaching.

Embrace the knowledge of life merrily instead of slogging through it. The way we enjoyed our school classrooms; so lovely are the classrooms of life. Teaching is part of our every moment of life.

Take your pains as lessons and thank God for them. Even that person who deceived you, was teacher of your life.

Our reaction to events of life, matter more than the events itself.

The education in life is never ending.

Learn, Share & Grow.

Happy Teachers Day

The benefits of Pain

When I was in college my attention mostly drew upon people who were richer than me. Their bikes, houses, money always attracted me. I always thought and used to ask God that why I don't hail from such family background?

Today however, my attention draw upon people lesser fortunate than me.  Nothing like I am pointing upon wealth, but I am pointing over my experience and to be specific the pains I have endured.

I realised that pains are very essential part of life, without which our growth is stagnant. A seed is required to dug deep into the soil for its journey towards becoming a tree. A stone has to go through harsh crushing to become a diamond. A wood has to endure the hits of sharp axe to change itself into useful forms.

Under painful situations:

Our personality is developed;
Our endurance power is enhanced;
We learn to face challenges;
We value things and people;
We draw closer to God;
We attain maturity;
We get to know our real friend's;
We learn to enjoy life in the midst of difficulties.
 
All of us are not the same person today, like we were few years earlier. The events of pain matured us.

That loss in business...that unfortunate death of a loved one...that lay off from work... that wrong outcome of planning...that heartbreak... that betrayal...that denial of help by somebody close...those days without money...that period of aloofness...that divorce... those sleepless nights and even that accident... All these situations have played a vital role in developing our character.

The pain breaks the stagnation. Every painful situation comes to push you to some new level.

The pain seeks energy to grow. And those energies it draws from your thought's, worries & disappointments.

During every painful situations, you have an option to either allow it to steal your joy Or you can choose to ignore it Or you can face your pain merrily. These are the three paths to your destination. Your travel time to achieve your dreams, would depend upon the path you choose.

I wish you a happy life
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Life Portfolio

The term portfolio is most commonly used in stock markets to indicate the group of different stocks that any particular investor hold. The age & investment capacity & planning term, of an investor, are few factors that shapes the particular portfolio. It is aimed to create profit by investing in diversified sectors so the scale of losses, if emerged, could be controlled.

The life even holds the portfolio that determines our situation. The portfolio has to be balanced, you cannot spend all day just working and expect God to change your situation. You may please note that the prayers just build confidence; the actions are required to realise dreams.

The portfolio of life should include work, time with family, acting upon dreams, some peace and bit of everything that makes one happy.

No body would understand your dreams, challenges, shortcomings, endurance level ... better than you.

No body would be interested to realise your dreams...
better than you.

Your portfolio needs revision if ... you are not satisfied with life... if you feel that sense of something is missing... if you feel lonely and boring... if you lose patience easily... if you feel nobody understands you... if you are liking the life of others... if there is sonething that bothering your heart.

There is nothing wrong with anybody's life. You cannot prevent problems, but you could choose to ignore them.

Most of the problems in life you can choose to ignore and the life would still do better. Face challenges which would make you grow. It is not necessary to face every problem in life just like those potholes in road; you can choose to take some alternate way.

The path of life brings some form of trouble for all; still some people you always find cheerful and the reason behind that is very simple. They revise their life portfolio as per the desires of their heart.

Build a strong life portfolio and Be happy !!he term portfolio is most commonly used in stock markets to indicate the group of different stocks that any particular investor hold. The age & investment capacity & planning term, of an investor, are few factors that shapes the particular portfolio. It is aimed to create profit by investing in diversified sectors so the scale of losses, if emerged, could be controlled.

The life even holds the portfolio that determines our situation. The portfolio has to be balanced, you cannot spend all day just working and expect God to change your situation. You may please note that the prayers just build confidence; the actions are required to realise dreams.

The portfolio of life should include work, time with family, acting upon dreams, some peace and bit of everything that makes one happy.

No body would understand your dreams, challenges, shortcomings, endurance level ... better than you.

No body would be interested to realise your dreams... better than you.

Your portfolio needs revision if ... you are not satisfied with life... if you feel that sense of something is missing... if you feel lonely and boring... if you lose patience easily... if you feel nobody understands you... if you are liking the life of others... if there is sonething that bothering your heart.

There is nothing wrong with anybody's life. You cannot prevent problems, but you could choose to ignore them.

Most of the problems in life you can choose to ignore and the life would still do better. Face challenges which would make you grow. It is not necessary to face every problem in life just like those potholes in road; you can choose to take some alternate way.

The path of life brings some form of trouble for all; still some people you always find cheerful and the reason behind that is very simple. They revise their life portfolio as per the desires of their heart.

Build a strong life portfolio and Be happy !!

Especially for married couples

See if the sequence is right:


'He saw her, she saw him,
Then they saw each other many more times later,
They became friends gradually,
They became good friends,
They started enjoying each others company
They became best friends,
They missed being together,
They started meeting in secret,
They exchanged late night message's, Facebook likes& comment's.

He proposed her one day, after many failed attempts,
She accepted the proposal,
And they indulge into relationship,
They draw closer physically,
He became possessive for her,
She became insecure,
They started fighting on unnecessary subjects,
They drew more emotionally and physically closer,

They got married one day,
They are happy and felt at the top of the world,
He was lesser jealous but more expectant,
She was lesser insecure but more demanding,

They became parents,
Love is divided between she and kid and he and kid.
The unnecessary fights advanced,
Love started to fade between them,
Life of other couples appeared exciting to them,
Physical closeness became just making up and not to make love.
Sacrifices becomes their habit and part of life...
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...they both died one day.

(Death is final destination. So ensure you take care of people today, for whom you'd sacrificed and fought in the past.
Bitter irony is, that we keep gold ornaments and even wine more dearly, irrespective of timelines, than our relationship)

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He realized,
She sobbed,
He hugged her,
She gave him a bigger kiss.

Go & hug your partner,
Do not let the past mistakes, misunderstandings, ego to ruin your relationship.

Build yourself a strong relationship. Share this message with someone you care.

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Bright somebody's day

We all are fishes of pond of our minds. Certainly an illusive pond. A pond, whose boundaries are limited by our own mindset. We are limited to our belief's, family, circle, mindset etc. However spiritually we are not the segregated ponds, but the part of one common ocean. Some of you may not agree but we all are interconnected to each other.
As Lord Krishna dictated that the a journey of physical body is limited, but the journey of soul is endless.

Our pond would vanish one day, in fraction of seconds, as we die and we would enter into a different world. The world of stars and moons. The world of bright day and spectacular whether. The world of eternal happiness and satisfaction.

The family, luxury and  responsibilities are part of everyone's life but a living being brightening somebody's day is a true human being.

Happiness is some virus that multiplies with sharing. As a candle lights another candle, you can light somebody's dim heart with your light of happiness.
Making someone smile, evades a part of sadness within you. Time, Attention, Happiness are bigger gifts than money. Helping somebody winning is a form of winning too. Selflessly make somebody smile in a day and you would feel your own life transforming into better.

I wish you a happy life,
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Why are we unhappy?

A simple, yet profound question to ask anybody. I question this to at least one person I meet daily and it is no surprise that everyone has the same answer, however the way of expression differs from person to person. Sadnesses' (I have realised) are different arrows placed in one quiver. All of us has one unique, unavoidable, painful, 'something' in life which is the base of our unhappinesses. It could be marriage for somebody, or could be physical disability for some or could be past failures for some of us. (The  first thing that came into your mind, as you are reading this, is pain area of your life and all other problems in your life are just branches to it).

I have realised that happiness is nothing but simply a choice. You could choose to be happy at any given moment. A simple smile during hard times may not completely dose off the fire of pain, but it would definitely rise your confidence.

Either you can daily sob over something unavoidable or either you could held your head up high and face your problems with a smile.

The problems and opportunities in life are as routine as heart pumping within. Both seeks attention to grow. The choice is yours.

I wish you a Happy Life.

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